Once you start questioning the lies of the inner “should” its days are numbered. What do I mean by that? At times we have an internal belief that causes us to use the word “should.” “He should.” “She should.” “I should.” He should get up and clean out the garage so we can park the car in it. She should stop complaining about her job. I should save my money so I can go on vacation. What you say? These should statements are right! I am here to tell you that “should” statement thinking is a lie you are believing. This believing of the lie is what causes you anxiety and frustrations. The truth is, even if it is necessary and correct that he get up and clean out the garage, or that she stop complaining and do something about it and you are deserving of a fine vacation, their behavior is saying otherwise.
Here is a tool for healing and getting to know yourself you can use towards a possible career interest if you develop it out or resolve that conflict issue. (I can help you) Simple yet very helpful. Write down all the things that you like in this way. “I may not know who I am, but I do know I like working with people (or I am finished working with people)” “I don’t know who I am, but I do know I like routine and predictability.” I don’t know who I am, but I do know I am a highly sensitive person and take on the emotions of others. Make a list. A picture of who you are will form. You will get a clearer view of who you are, what you want and don’t want for your future.
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